Unlike previous Bachelorettes, Hannah was outspoken with her sex life. She had no shame in her sexuality, and instead was empowered by it.Read More
When the pattern of similarities among secrets emerged, I began to question why some of the most common life experiences were such private secrets. On some level, it is rather obvious: some of these secrets involve trauma and either way people are entitled to their privacy. But another common denominator is that these subjects are all taboo.Read More
There’s a specific era of girlhood, in my experience, in which one might halfheartedly do this kind of thing: gymnastics, figure skating, dance lessons. There’s a phase of life defined, in part, by being awakened to the idea that such traditionally feminine endeavors are romantic, not just because they look beautiful, but because they require so much of you, as a person and a body. Girls learn early on the romance of practicing severe self-discipline, of denying yourself things: free time, food, pleasure.
As the men, the writers at the newspaper we learn, belittle Nancy as Jonathon gets off free, it is concerning that we are less bothered by the blatant reality we see today on and off the tv screen. We even watch Jonathon witness his girlfriend sinking and with shallow affirmation, tells her to “buck up,” and “they’ll warm up to you.”Read More
There are mentions of things like privilege, gender expression, the spectrum of sexuality, but these are shown more than anything else. They don’t need to be mentioned as much because this is a show that truly centers those narratives and values, and that’s what I want to see.Read More
Particularly for those with my same approach to recovery – a hopefulness that can occasionally border on denial – signs of an impending relapse can sound somewhat of a muted alarm. You want to trust your progress, to know you have grown and learned to handle the worst of it; this is why the alarm is not blaring with abandon.Read More
A lot of us need to protect ourselves and avoid hurtful interactions that we’re all too familiar with. That’s all reasonable, we all need a little self-protection. What concerns me is when I see people not even trying to have a discussion or getting frustrated with others before they’ve even done anything offensive.Read More
We so often think of resistance in forms of obvious rebellion and action, but resistance and advocacy takes many more forms than just marching or protesting.Read More
It is worth noting that the minority of dissidents of these proposals (US, Canada, Australia) are also the countries whose existence is contingent upon repressing and relocating their own indigenous populations.Read More
The story we’re used to hearing goes like this; women don’t have a sense of humor and therefore cannot “take a joke.” The story often now goes like this; feminists are humorless and cannot take a joke.Read More
What I definitely know is that we don’t want to see diversity for the sake of checking an arbitrary box. We want it because it’s what exists in the real world, and we want to see that reflected, as opposed to ignored or erased.
A gifted beer is not pleasant to receive when it's laced with underlying expectations of flirtation, or more. Most free drinks come at a cost, and the price is far too hefty for any woman to put up with as much as we do.Read More
Everytime I had to repeat myself, I got more and more embarrassed. I tried to remind myself that size doesn’t matter - it’s just a number. My size doesn’t have to mean anything bad unless I give it that power, but I sure wasn’t thinking that at the time.Read More
We need to create an open dialogue about the motives of the marketing executives and creative directors who are perpetually reinforcing an entirely outdated and incorrect notion that gender expression is a central part of one’s identity. Apart from determining which pronouns we prefer, gender expression is just as integral to one’s identity as age.Read More
Instead, I deserved to say no to pain and discomfort. These lessons attuned me to my own body, a heightened attention that allowed me to determine, yes that feels good and no that doesn’t feel so good and subsequently establish that a “yes” belonged to sex and a “no” belonged to a sexual act from which I could revoke consent.
As a young woman coming of age during a time of what feels like widespread feminist support, I find reading the works of trailblazing female thinkers refreshing and empowering.Read More
There’s multiple ways that language can be exclusive. Some might not be as obvious as the incident at my workplace, but we should all be aware of them and be cognizant of the many ways language can impact a person’s sense of safety and acceptance.Read More
As feminists, queer folk, and people of color alike continue to unify and seek their own spaces of self-exploration and healing, people are searching more and more for ways to build and grow their sense of inner-stability.Read More
“Stop the rhetoric that a woman is crazy or difficult. If a man says a woman is crazy or difficult, ask him, ‘What bad thing did you do to her?’ That’s a code word. He is trying to discredit her reputation.”